Thoughts on milking

Mistress told me to write my thoughts about milking. And I suppose that depends on how you define it.

Traditionally, milking means massaging the prostate so that the male is drained of seminal fluid without him being able to control or stop the drain and without any ejaculatory pleasure. This can be done to frustrate the male by not allowing him pleasure, to help prolong his stamina for use later, to humiliate the male by forcing him to watch his fluid taken from his body against his will, and to help with prostate health when no other release is allowed over long periods of time. For this practice, I think the occasional release of fluid for prostate health is essential. Many folks seem to think at least every couple of weeks is a good routine for this practice. As for the humiliation and submission associated with it, I am certain it would feel submissive and there would be a great deal of erotic humiliation with the routine. I've also read that it can be quite difficult for a male to do this to himself...that a partner is much better at performing this routine.

But sometimes in D/s relationships, milking is a term used for other practices. Sometimes it is used interchangeably with the term ruined orgasm. I don't think the swap of labels is accurate. A ruined orgasm is performed differently...it is actually providing some stimulation right to the brink of orgasm and then depriving the male of any more stimulation thus creating a rather unsatisfying orgasm. There is usually no prostate massage involved. While it may serve the same purposes of taking away ejaculatory control and pleasure from the male and of giving his prostate a workout, it is a different activity. So in this case, I use the term ruined orgasm.

Lastly, I've seen some refer to milking as the practice of the Dominant stroking the male to orgasm as means of forced orgasm. She is taking his cum from him. It may be done in some humiliating manner or not. But the objective is often humiliation and loss of power/control over his own orgasm. However, at least the male is receiving all the ejaculatory pleasure of this orgasm as his fluid is drained. The purpose here may be a regular release for prostate health, humiliation, demonstrating control, exhibition, or simply for the joy of taking his orgasm without giving him any control.

And how do I feel about all of these? All seem very humiliating. All seem to have an erotic appeal. All seem very submissive. I agree that the prostate needs some release and work to remain healthy and all seem to provide that.

I've experienced some ruined orgasms and forced milking...and both were frustrating, humiliating and very erotic. I've never experienced a prostate milking.